Impersonal Events Out of Your Home
At first, it is best to get together with neighbors or coworkers outside your home in an impersonal event; you may have to plan some, and others just happen. The idea is that you get exposed to each other without becoming too invasive such as a sit-down dinner where conversation may be awkward. Look for common ground you have with the person. If you don’t have any, try to learn what they’re interested in and get involved:
• Go to a ballgame
• Go to the county fair
• Go to an auto race (NASCAR)
• Work out at the gym
• Go hunting or fishing together
• Go to a cultural event (play, concert, etc.)
Get Them Into Your Home
Going inside someone else’s house for the first time can be a little intimidating, so barbecue first if you can. It’s outside, and they can see their house, or run away if you’re really weird or end up trying to sell them something! Some believers who start home Bible studies find that the neighbors who come have already been in that home for a meal, party or holiday event.
Holidays, of course, are a great excuse for having unbelieving friends come over for a party, a meal or a picnic. Having them bring something sets people more at ease than if you do everything for them. And be careful of making things too perfect. When your dog has puppies, have all the neighbors into your home – not to sell them a puppy, but just to get them inside your home.
Having people in your home is a major step in building a relationship with them. They can see that you are normal. They see that you keep your house clean; they can observe your décor and life. You are bringing your personal lives together.
Excerpt from “Fostering the Harvest,” a workshop on evangelism by Biblical Ministries Worldwide. This resource is available at Amazon.